Beyond the Classroom: Valuing Parent's Lived Experience in Education

"Lived experience" is the personal knowledge and understanding gained through direct, first-hand involvement in everyday events and activities. It includes the insights, feelings, and perspectives individuals develop through their unique experiences. Theoretical knowledge or second-hand information comes from qualifications and books. The lived experience emphasises the importance of personal stories and subjective reality.

"Lived experience" is crucial for understanding how people perceive and make sense of their world. Sociology, psychology, and philosophy benefit from this knowledge. This highlights the need to hear stories of individual experiences from marginalised or underrepresented groups.

My Lived Experience

My story is not unusual in education today, so I wanted to write a book to reach parents who feel lost or misunderstood. We don't need to do this alone, and if more of us talk, then maybe things will change.

For the book, click Neurodiversity in Education: An Autistic Child's Journey through Mainstream School.

A Fussy Parent or an Advocate

Do they really value the parents' understanding of their child? Do they respect and acknowledge parents' experiences and insight into their child? Many specialists have a sense of what it's like to have a child with special educational needs, but this is through a qualification that allows them to be an authority on our children, which is usually a stereotype.

Is there enough lived experience in education, or is it just an educational bubble

There is not enough time to find out how our children work, and it is not essential. Extra work requires more money and resources, and the education system is about bums on seats and imparting knowledge. The educational curriculum is becoming so restricted that more and more children struggle to access the subjects, so how can you keep children motivated? Those who don't fit in are punished, and their behaviour is corrected. The medical model assesses children for a medical condition to justify why they are wrong, and the system is correct.

Schools are slowly seeing the implications of not supporting a child's mental health. This Victorian school model is inadequate for supporting the next generation's education.

Parents and professionals who are neurodiverse or who have children with neurodiverse issues see the bigger picture of a child's life. They understand how to support a child with additional needs. Sometimes, parents need reassurance or a better understanding of sensory challenges. Teachers and Learning Support Assistants need these skills and knowledge from the parents.

Research

The importance of understanding children’s lived experience

Author - Barbara Rogoff, Audun Dahl, Maureen Callanan

In this article, we argue that developmental research needs to focus more on understanding children’s lived experience and practices in the everyday settings of their lives, as participants in cultural communities. Children’s development occurs within and through their everyday experiences, which, for all children everywhere, are cultural experiences. Understanding the learning opportunities and the societal organisation involved in what they know and do is essential. Full article - click here

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My lived experience in education

Walking into the Year 1 classroom on the first day with my son, I instantly felt he would struggle in this environment. I didn't know why; it was a mother's instinct after 6 years of knowing this boy. He had already experienced some bullying in Reception. His classmates observed differences in my son. When he got excited, he would jump up and down, flapping his hands. This would amuse them, and they would laugh at him. I'm sure many of you can relate to these challenges in a child's school environment.

Schools sometimes work in isolation from the real world, without understanding the whole child. A child spends almost a third of their childhood in school, so schools need to understand the children in their care.

Ongoing lived experience.

Schools don't always understand how poor education, safeguarding, and mental health issues carry into adult life.

When a child leaves school, becoming another adult mental health statistic, do they see the connection between their lack of support and poor adult outcomes?

I see it.